{"id":1337,"date":"2020-06-05T20:55:48","date_gmt":"2020-06-05T20:55:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/touchinghearts.com\/blog\/dayton\/?p=49"},"modified":"2020-06-05T20:55:48","modified_gmt":"2020-06-05T20:55:48","slug":"are-you-judging-yourself-too-harshly","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/touchinghearts.com\/dayton\/blog\/are-you-judging-yourself-too-harshly\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Judging Yourself Too Harshly?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>It\u2019s very easy for caregivers to have high expectations of themselves. But are your expectations too high? And are you possibly being too judgmental with yourself?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Negative Thoughts Aren\u2019t Going to Serve You Well<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Negative thoughts seem like they might be helpful because they could be motivational, right? But that\u2019s really not the case. Most of the time, negative comments and thoughts are the opposite of motivational. They\u2019re far more likely to send you farther into feeling badly about whatever is going on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Comparison Is a Thief<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignright is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/touchinghearts.com\/blog\/dayton\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/bigstock-A-Close-up-Of-An-Older-Black-W-168286892-1024x540.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-50\" width=\"319\" height=\"168\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Constant comparison is a thief of so many valuable resources. Time, energy, and joy all are compromised when comparison is running the show. You don\u2019t have to compare yourself to anyone else at all. You\u2019re being the best caregiver that you can be in every given moment. Trying to compete with anyone else is going to present problems for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Noticing Your Thoughts Is the First Step<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you\u2019re trying to turn this all around, the first thing you need to do is to start noticing your thoughts at all. When are you experiencing negative thoughts? When are they positive? Are there differences in when you have each type of thought? Avoid judging those thoughts at this stage. You\u2019re just noticing them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The Second Step Is Turning Your Thoughts Around<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The next step is to start turning those negative thoughts around. Do something physical to mark the end of that thought, whether that\u2019s taking a deep breath or shaking your head in the negative. Reframe the thought from something negative into something positive. If you can\u2019t do that at the very beginning, start listing out things you\u2019re happy about or grateful for. Both of those moods reframe your thoughts in general. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Keep Track of How You\u2019re Doing<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The big payoff in paying attention to your thoughts is that you\u2019re able to make some progress on turning them around. It really helps to keep track of how you\u2019re doing with this. An easy way to do it is by journaling about your experiences and how you respond to specific situations. Any hot spot issues are ones that you can continue to work on. This might feel difficult at first, but as you make more progress, you\u2019ll be able to see it and that will be powerful for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember also that you\u2019re likely the only person who thinks you\u2019re not doing enough or doing things right. Cut yourself some much-needed slack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you are considering <a href=\"https:\/\/touchinghearts.com\/dayton\/services\/\">caregivers in Xenia, OH<\/a>, for an aging loved one, please contact the caring staff at Touching Hearts At Home of Dayton today at 937-558-9394.<\/strong><br><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s entirely possible as a caregiver to be way too harsh in your judgement of yourself and your actions. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":50,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[46,47],"tags":[48],"class_list":["post-1337","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-caregiver-stress","category-caregivers-in-xenia-oh","tag-caregivers-in-zenia-oh"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Are You Judging Yourself Too Harshly? 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